Amen.
--- In SkunkworksAMA_at_yahoogroups.com, "jmhcustomart"
<jmhcustomart_at_y...> wrote:
> RE: Recent miniscule flame war
>
> Come on, guys. Seriously. I think this entire recent thread is
> something most folks aren't gonna wanna read in their inboxes.
> Admittedly, the initial request was perhaps poorly worded, but I
> realize and understand that not everyone is
particularly "schooled"
> in such things as societal politeness, grammar, or whatever. And
> hey, that's okay. I understood the guy's message. He was curious
if
> I could help complete a picture for him. Nothing wrong in asking
> that, really. Perhaps it could have been asked in a differently-
> worded way, but I understood the question nonetheless.
> I'm not an emotional person. Just ask Des. My state of
> emotionless-ness has been the cause of many an argument. But
perhaps
> it is because of this lack of emotional involvement that I am able
to
> view this situation without any bias.
> I'm not trying to insult any individuals on this group. I'm not
> that kinda guy. But sometimes, a message can get interpreted the
> wrong way, and may initiate an unfavorable response. It appears
as
> if this entire situation was a misunderstanding of sorts, but the
> individuals involved may have let their emotions take control.
> Now, this is not an insult. Let's face it, any argument between
> two people is started by a misunderstanding, and then a perceived
> threat to an individuals style or beliefs. It is important to
> discuss things rationally, without getting worked up about it.
> Arguments and fights can be avoided this way. As long as each
> individual can view the situation as it really is (think of it as
a
> math problem), then a solution can be reached.
> There's nothing wrong with a person saying he/she is sorry, or
that
> they fucked up, or made a mistake, or whatever. Let's face it, we
> all like to be right. Nobody likes being wrong. Although this
> thread is not an issue of right-vs-wrong, it is about
> misinterpretation and responding too quickly for the logical mind
to
> catch up. I don't profess to know the general age bracket of the
> members of this group, but we are all certainly adults.
> Even when I get angry or insulting e-mails, I do not respond
with
> equal venom. I try to understand what happened to make the
> individual angry, and then devise a way to fix it, or at least
> respond in a polite and civil manner. Life is too damn short to
make
> enemies, man, and let's face it, we're all stuck on this rotating
> rock for the rest of our lives. We should try to understand other
> folks' views, even if they do not agree with what we feel
is "right"
> or "proper". I am not asking for anything like a public apology
or
> any shit like that. But take a break, cool down, and read the
words
> that were written. You might be able to understand how it all
went
> wrong.
>
> --James M. Hardiman, apologizing to the members of the group for
the
> recent banter.
Received on Sat Jun 07 2003 - 18:49:27 CDT